I envied those letters: SAHM. It was a different caliper of women who could wear that hat and I have to admit, I was jealous of them. They don’t have to hear about their babies hitting milestones from their sitter. They don’t pick them up on a Friday evening and hold a different baby than what they dropped off on Monday morning. They are the lucky few.
When I was on maternity leave, the thought of returning to work made me sick. I couldn’t imagine having to leave my baby for one hour, much less 8. I tried not to break down in front of my husband. I didn’t want him to feel extra pressure to make more money so I could stay home. He wanted that too. I feel guilty for ever pushing him to pursue a management position in retail that I knew he didn’t want. What kind of example would that set for our son? He shouldn’t think that the only way to make a life is to be miserable at a job he doesn’t care for. Deep in my heart I knew we’d figure something out and we did. We both quit our jobs.Yes… BOTH of us!
My husband has always wanted his own business and to be his own boss. He’s a hard worker and wants to be compensated for the hard work he does. After talking to friends and family and doing a bit of research we decided to pursue carpet cleaning. My husband is a people person so getting clients will be easy for him. To pay for the business we have decided to cash in our retirement and pour it into his equipment, marketing, etc.
I won’t lie.. part of me was terrified for a while. I mean, what sane woman would quit her safe job while her husband ALSO quit his safe job to pursue a dream? Honestly, it’s a woman in love. I have faith in my husband and I am so grateful that he is helping me pursue my dream of staying at home with our baby boy.
Some may find this move to be naive, foolish, or even as a wishful thought. Quite frankly, I agree. But isn’t that such an exciting way to live? I want to teach my son to take chances and live a little. He deserves two happy parents who are passionate, in love and and don’t feel trapped by their circumstances.
I have used the colors I currently have to paint my future but it doesn’t have to be like that! I can paint whatever picture I want – the colors may just come in unexpected ways. I remember when I was four years old in a make-believe wedding dress my dad told me that I could be anything I wanted. Through my teenage years and even into my early 20s, I thought that was a lie. Only the privileged truly have that opportunity. That’s not the case. The truth is, we still live in an amazing country where a young family can make it on love and a dream.
We’re going to do this and I hope you join us for the ride.