Settling In… My Maternity Leave Thus Far

We don’t have nearly as many guests stopping by the house to see baby Colton. While I love when people come visit & I appreciate how excited everyone is to meet my son, it’s nice to get into a routine with my nearly 3 week old little boy. We’re figuring each other out, learning each other’s cues and bonding. It’s wonderful. That being said, you all know that I’m all about keeping things real… there have been times where I have had to walk away from him and take a minute or two to breathe. Having a newborn (especially to a new mom) is extremely stressful at times. There have been times when nothing would get him to stop crying. I couldn’t figure out what was wrong and I felt like an awful mother. I should be able to make everything better and I couldn’t do it. I have learned a few things in the 2 weeks or so that he’s been here.

Here are my tips to surviving the first 2 weeks:

  • If you’re going to breastfeed and there is nothing medically wrong with your baby, ditch the schedule. Your baby will let you know when he is hungry. Feed him as frequently as he needs. I was so worried about going a few minutes past 2 hours, didn’t want to feed him prior to 2 hours and would wake up a happy sleeping baby just to stay on schedule – it’s bull.
  • Know ahead of time that breastfeeding is a challenge. Be able to bend and know that you’re not a complete failure if you’re not able to do it, or if you have to supplement with formula. My supply was very low in the evenings of week 1 and I had to supplement with formula. My baby easily went back and forth from bottle to breast, breast milk to formula. I’m lucky – not all babies do that. Just do what you feel is best.
  • Get comfortable. Yes, wear your comfy pants, put your hair in a messy bun, but also organize your home to fit your needs. I had every intention of having my son sleep in his crib from day 1. Everything was within an arms reach in his nursery and I was good to go. Turns out, co-sleeping is what works for us (never imagined that would happen) and I had to move the rocking chair, burp cloths, boppy and everything else into our bedroom. It makes it so much easier!
  • Take care of yourself. Make sure you get enough to eat, sleep when you can and my advice is to take some time to look nice. Do your hair, put on some makeup and shave your legs. When I took the time to do these things I feel that it helped me stay out of that “baby blues” funk and still feel like a human.
  • Ask for help when you need it. Call a relative or friend if you need a break. There’s no shame in that.
  • Enjoy every second! My baby already looks totally different than what he did when he was first born. I can’t believe how fast he is growing. I know I won’t get this time back so I’m trying my hardest to soak in everything. Even the crying fits that can be SO frustrating.

I’m constantly learning and whatever I find out along the way I’ll definitely share here!

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